Things you need to know when preparing for a Bar or Bat Mitzvah:
- The service has many roles that can be played by family and friends. Some roles are appropriate for non-Jews. Some are not. Your temple should have a policy about this. Ask about this early in the planning process.
- Not all synagogues allow non-Jews on the Bema. If you’re not sure of your congregation’s policy on this, ask early in the planning process.
- Only Jews can speak for the congregation. This means that a non-Jew participating in the service cannot say a blessing or prayer that represents the congregation as a whole. They can usually do a reading.
- You will most likely be responsible for preparing a simple program for the service. In this program, you’ll give the names of the people who will be performing various tasks.
- An easy way to know the roles you need people for, is to ask for a sample program early in the planning process.